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		<title>Comment on Jewish Identity &#8211; An E-mail Dialogue by Miriam Sparrow</title>
		<link>http://www.shomreitorah.org/2012/02/10/jewish-identity-an-e-mail-dialogue-2/#comment-1598</link>
		<dc:creator>Miriam Sparrow</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 20 Feb 2012 20:28:41 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Rabbi George and Howard, 
Your dialogue is most provocative, as is Asher&#039;s comment.  
In a different time and place, I would respond differently to the issue of &quot;minimum requirements&quot; for defining what it means to be a Jew.  Since moving to CA a few years ago and joining Congregation Shomrei Torah (CST), I have learned a lot from being a member of our diverse Jewish community, including not to expect that we all look (and/or pray, believe, understand, speak, eat, etc.) alike.   
While I suspect each of us has his/her own minimum requirements of what it means to be a Jew, I have come to prefer an inclusive approach: the person who feels him/herself to be Jewish is a Jew.  
The non-practicing individual may not be &quot;an observant individual&quot;; the individual who doesn&#039;t accept Israel as the homeland of the Jews may not be &quot;a Zionist&quot;; some may behave in a &quot;more Jewish&quot; or &quot;less Jewish&quot; manner.  However, there is room in our contemporary identity to accept as Jewish the individual who believes him/herself to be a Jew without adding a litany of requirements.  
This inclusive approach is a reflection of our times (2012) and our location (CA, USA).   In our 21st century world, an inclusive definition is important for the survival of the Jewish people.  I fear the alternative: to define a Jew in a traditional Orthodox manner and to say of others, &quot;they were once Jews,&quot; &quot;they were born Jewish,&quot; &quot;they converted, but it wasn&#039;t really a Jewish conversion,&quot; &quot;they think they are Jewish, but they couldn&#039;t pass a test on Judaism.&quot; That alternative is not who we are now and here.  
For sure, that is not what CST represents.  CST&#039;s vibrancy, diversity, tolerance, warmth in welcoming people challenge us to broaden our definitions and accept as Jews those who want to be Jewish, and... preferably, take steps to learn what that means/has meant over time and around the world.  
Miriam</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Rabbi George and Howard,<br />
Your dialogue is most provocative, as is Asher&#8217;s comment.<br />
In a different time and place, I would respond differently to the issue of &#8220;minimum requirements&#8221; for defining what it means to be a Jew.  Since moving to CA a few years ago and joining Congregation Shomrei Torah (CST), I have learned a lot from being a member of our diverse Jewish community, including not to expect that we all look (and/or pray, believe, understand, speak, eat, etc.) alike.<br />
While I suspect each of us has his/her own minimum requirements of what it means to be a Jew, I have come to prefer an inclusive approach: the person who feels him/herself to be Jewish is a Jew.<br />
The non-practicing individual may not be &#8220;an observant individual&#8221;; the individual who doesn&#8217;t accept Israel as the homeland of the Jews may not be &#8220;a Zionist&#8221;; some may behave in a &#8220;more Jewish&#8221; or &#8220;less Jewish&#8221; manner.  However, there is room in our contemporary identity to accept as Jewish the individual who believes him/herself to be a Jew without adding a litany of requirements.<br />
This inclusive approach is a reflection of our times (2012) and our location (CA, USA).   In our 21st century world, an inclusive definition is important for the survival of the Jewish people.  I fear the alternative: to define a Jew in a traditional Orthodox manner and to say of others, &#8220;they were once Jews,&#8221; &#8220;they were born Jewish,&#8221; &#8220;they converted, but it wasn&#8217;t really a Jewish conversion,&#8221; &#8220;they think they are Jewish, but they couldn&#8217;t pass a test on Judaism.&#8221; That alternative is not who we are now and here.<br />
For sure, that is not what CST represents.  CST&#8217;s vibrancy, diversity, tolerance, warmth in welcoming people challenge us to broaden our definitions and accept as Jews those who want to be Jewish, and&#8230; preferably, take steps to learn what that means/has meant over time and around the world.<br />
Miriam</p>
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		<title>Comment on Jewish Identity &#8211; An E-mail Dialogue by Asher R. Sheppard</title>
		<link>http://www.shomreitorah.org/2012/02/10/jewish-identity-an-e-mail-dialogue-2/#comment-1542</link>
		<dc:creator>Asher R. Sheppard</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 17 Feb 2012 23:18:26 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Thank you both. 
Faced with questions like Howard&#039;s, &quot;[I]s there a baseline that the Reform Jewish community can require to &#039;be a Jew.&#039; I am not speaking of the legal definition…,&quot; I favor an operational definition. If a person acts like a Jew, and action comes foremost, talks like a Jew, implying familiarity with our traditions based on Torah, Talmud, including Reform amendments, and walks like a Jew, implying personal effort to be B&#039;tselem ELohim, and speaks of themself as a Jew (i.e., adopts a Jewish identity), then I recognize that person as a Jew. 
(Yes, I toyed with additional phrases, &quot;eats like a Jew; observes like a Jew; thinks like a Jew; cares for the People of Israel like a Jew; prays like a Jew; cares for Israel like a Jew; and more.)</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Thank you both.<br />
Faced with questions like Howard&#8217;s, &#8220;[I]s there a baseline that the Reform Jewish community can require to &#8216;be a Jew.&#8217; I am not speaking of the legal definition…,&#8221; I favor an operational definition. If a person acts like a Jew, and action comes foremost, talks like a Jew, implying familiarity with our traditions based on Torah, Talmud, including Reform amendments, and walks like a Jew, implying personal effort to be B&#8217;tselem ELohim, and speaks of themself as a Jew (i.e., adopts a Jewish identity), then I recognize that person as a Jew.<br />
(Yes, I toyed with additional phrases, &#8220;eats like a Jew; observes like a Jew; thinks like a Jew; cares for the People of Israel like a Jew; prays like a Jew; cares for Israel like a Jew; and more.)</p>
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		<title>Comment on Reflection on the Jewish-American Experience &amp; Anti-Semitism by anon</title>
		<link>http://www.shomreitorah.org/2012/01/09/reflection-on-the-jewish-american-experience-anti-semitism-2/#comment-1468</link>
		<dc:creator>anon</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 11 Feb 2012 13:45:53 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Rabbi, with all due respect, you are sorely mistaken about the trend of antisemitism in America, which has been on the rise for the past few decades, according to publicly available FBI statistics about hate crimes. In this very town, I&#039;ve seen  swastika graffiti near where I live, and heard hints of a KKK group meeting nearby as well.

I&#039;ve experienced antisemitism at the SRJC, from another student, and a teacher, and witnessed swastika shaped &quot;art&quot; pieces on display in the main SRJC library. (I&#039;ve also experienced a kind of self-hating ?jewish? teacher who would shriek to anyone listening, that zionists have seized control of campuses around the country.)

There is a serious problem in America, with antisemitism, and in our community as well.

 Yes, institutional traditional overt antisemitism is not an official policy anymore (but quotas still exist, in the admission policies that rewards minorities but excludes majorities -- but classify jews as part of the excluded, unfavored majority (really, this is ridiculous, admission should be merit based)). 

However, outside of our sick public higher education system,  racism is alive and well, and I&#039;d argue that its undercurrents drive much of the political extremism in our community, as well. I find the *officially sanctioned* and allowed  lawlessness and threats of the Occupy movement to be very scary, and see them as very easily morphing into a group that smashes the windows of Jewish business, just like mobs did in Nazi Germany. In fact, antisemitism is a well recorded problem in some of these these huge mob gatherings.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Rabbi, with all due respect, you are sorely mistaken about the trend of antisemitism in America, which has been on the rise for the past few decades, according to publicly available FBI statistics about hate crimes. In this very town, I&#8217;ve seen  swastika graffiti near where I live, and heard hints of a KKK group meeting nearby as well.</p>
<p>I&#8217;ve experienced antisemitism at the SRJC, from another student, and a teacher, and witnessed swastika shaped &#8220;art&#8221; pieces on display in the main SRJC library. (I&#8217;ve also experienced a kind of self-hating ?jewish? teacher who would shriek to anyone listening, that zionists have seized control of campuses around the country.)</p>
<p>There is a serious problem in America, with antisemitism, and in our community as well.</p>
<p> Yes, institutional traditional overt antisemitism is not an official policy anymore (but quotas still exist, in the admission policies that rewards minorities but excludes majorities &#8212; but classify jews as part of the excluded, unfavored majority (really, this is ridiculous, admission should be merit based)). </p>
<p>However, outside of our sick public higher education system,  racism is alive and well, and I&#8217;d argue that its undercurrents drive much of the political extremism in our community, as well. I find the *officially sanctioned* and allowed  lawlessness and threats of the Occupy movement to be very scary, and see them as very easily morphing into a group that smashes the windows of Jewish business, just like mobs did in Nazi Germany. In fact, antisemitism is a well recorded problem in some of these these huge mob gatherings.</p>
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		<title>Comment on Reflection on the Jewish-American Experience &amp; Anti-Semitism by Rabbi George Gittleman</title>
		<link>http://www.shomreitorah.org/2012/01/09/reflection-on-the-jewish-american-experience-anti-semitism-2/#comment-1416</link>
		<dc:creator>Rabbi George Gittleman</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 07 Feb 2012 05:33:28 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Dear Randi, what you describe is certainly
not benigne! And, given the response to my blog I am beginning to think that ant-semitism is a bigger problem than I thought. However, I still think the days of institutional anti-semitism in the US are over at least for now, the one exception being college campuses where college administrations seem to hide behind concerns about free speach and academic freedom when it comes to anti-semitism on campus. In addition, it would be
hard to argue that there are any real barriers to advancement in American Society for Jews today. Nevertheless, it seems that anti-semitism on &quot;the street&quot; is still a real and pernicious reality.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Dear Randi, what you describe is certainly<br />
not benigne! And, given the response to my blog I am beginning to think that ant-semitism is a bigger problem than I thought. However, I still think the days of institutional anti-semitism in the US are over at least for now, the one exception being college campuses where college administrations seem to hide behind concerns about free speach and academic freedom when it comes to anti-semitism on campus. In addition, it would be<br />
hard to argue that there are any real barriers to advancement in American Society for Jews today. Nevertheless, it seems that anti-semitism on &#8220;the street&#8221; is still a real and pernicious reality.</p>
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		<title>Comment on Reflection on the Jewish-American Experience &amp; Anti-Semitism by Randi S.</title>
		<link>http://www.shomreitorah.org/2012/01/09/reflection-on-the-jewish-american-experience-anti-semitism-2/#comment-1409</link>
		<dc:creator>Randi S.</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 06 Feb 2012 21:51:18 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Dear Rabbi George,

I happened upon  your post while doing research for a young adult novel I am writing, and I have to disagree with your notion that contemporary  anti-semitism is a &quot;benign form of prejudice.&quot; Perhaps it is different in the South, where I live, but the incidents that my children, my husband, and others have experienced just in the last few years, have been far from harmless. When a seven-year-old is told that &quot;being Jewish is stupid&quot; or  a 7th grader is called  a &quot;Jew-fag,&quot; there is harm done. Though not sanctioned by any body of authority, or causing physical harm, or a loss of income, this type of anti-semitism degrades, scars, and chips away at the human spirit. 

In my years as an educator, I have seen, heard, and felt the sting of anti-semitism. Just last week, one of my colleagues asked me to speak to one of her students. They had just started reading Livia Bitton Jackson&#039;s Holocaust memoir, I Have Lived a Thousand Years, when one student threw his book on the floor and put his head down. When she asked him to bring her the book, he picked it up between his thumb and index finger, holding it at a distance. She asked what was wrong with the book, and he replied, &quot;It reeks of Jews.&quot; 
Would you consider this a &quot;benign&quot; act?
 His comment &quot;reeks&quot; of poison--the kind that can spread and lead to other acts that might not be so benign. 

Sincerely,
Randi S.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Dear Rabbi George,</p>
<p>I happened upon  your post while doing research for a young adult novel I am writing, and I have to disagree with your notion that contemporary  anti-semitism is a &#8220;benign form of prejudice.&#8221; Perhaps it is different in the South, where I live, but the incidents that my children, my husband, and others have experienced just in the last few years, have been far from harmless. When a seven-year-old is told that &#8220;being Jewish is stupid&#8221; or  a 7th grader is called  a &#8220;Jew-fag,&#8221; there is harm done. Though not sanctioned by any body of authority, or causing physical harm, or a loss of income, this type of anti-semitism degrades, scars, and chips away at the human spirit. </p>
<p>In my years as an educator, I have seen, heard, and felt the sting of anti-semitism. Just last week, one of my colleagues asked me to speak to one of her students. They had just started reading Livia Bitton Jackson&#8217;s Holocaust memoir, I Have Lived a Thousand Years, when one student threw his book on the floor and put his head down. When she asked him to bring her the book, he picked it up between his thumb and index finger, holding it at a distance. She asked what was wrong with the book, and he replied, &#8220;It reeks of Jews.&#8221;<br />
Would you consider this a &#8220;benign&#8221; act?<br />
 His comment &#8220;reeks&#8221; of poison&#8211;the kind that can spread and lead to other acts that might not be so benign. </p>
<p>Sincerely,<br />
Randi S.</p>
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		<title>Comment on Our Kashrut Policy and Why it Matters by RG</title>
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		<dc:creator>RG</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 06 Feb 2012 06:37:30 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Ever wonder where the money that one pays for a heksher/kosher stamp of approval goes? Much is as it seems, but in a few notable cases the kosher stamp of approval comes with the price of supporting Ultra-Orthodox, anti-Zionist Jewish groups in Israel. The following link will take you to an article by the Forward about this unfortunate practice - http://www.forward.com/articles/150571/</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Ever wonder where the money that one pays for a heksher/kosher stamp of approval goes? Much is as it seems, but in a few notable cases the kosher stamp of approval comes with the price of supporting Ultra-Orthodox, anti-Zionist Jewish groups in Israel. The following link will take you to an article by the Forward about this unfortunate practice &#8211; <a href="http://www.forward.com/articles/150571/" rel="nofollow">http://www.forward.com/articles/150571/</a></p>
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		<title>Comment on Reflection on the Jewish-American Experience &amp; Anti-Semitism by Rabbi George Gittleman</title>
		<link>http://www.shomreitorah.org/2012/01/09/reflection-on-the-jewish-american-experience-anti-semitism-2/#comment-1360</link>
		<dc:creator>Rabbi George Gittleman</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 02 Feb 2012 02:54:41 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Dear Ellen,

Thanks for your thoughtful response. It has been very interesting to hear and read folks response to this blog. After hearing so many people question the degree to which anti-semitism is no longer a serious issue in America, I am beginning to wonder if my comments were/are off the mark. I do think that in many college campuses the anti-Israel activity morphs into anti-semitism with little or no response from University officials. A number of other people have told me some pretty hard stories causing me to question whether anti-semitism is more of a problem in the States than I thought.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Dear Ellen,</p>
<p>Thanks for your thoughtful response. It has been very interesting to hear and read folks response to this blog. After hearing so many people question the degree to which anti-semitism is no longer a serious issue in America, I am beginning to wonder if my comments were/are off the mark. I do think that in many college campuses the anti-Israel activity morphs into anti-semitism with little or no response from University officials. A number of other people have told me some pretty hard stories causing me to question whether anti-semitism is more of a problem in the States than I thought.</p>
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		<title>Comment on Reflection on the Jewish-American Experience &amp; Anti-Semitism by Ellen Samuel</title>
		<link>http://www.shomreitorah.org/2012/01/09/reflection-on-the-jewish-american-experience-anti-semitism-2/#comment-1359</link>
		<dc:creator>Ellen Samuel</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 02 Feb 2012 01:25:59 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Dear Rabbi George,

Thank you for your thoughtful article on anti-semitism (it pains me to dignify the word with capital letters, so I try not to.)

I feel that Jewish people in America have become too complacent and far too comfortable. It makes me think of the stories my Mother-in-Law would tell me (she and her family escaped Nazi Germany). She would tell how people would say to her father, who by the way, fought in the German Cavalry in WW1, &quot;Erich, why are you taking Elsa and the children so far away, we&#039;re Germans and this will all be over by the spring.&quot; (We all know how that idea turned out.)

I think the acceptance, that we, as Jews in America, have experienced have led us to be less than cautious. I know I sound paranoid but I grew up in an era where there was still overt anti-semitism, and though on the surface things seem to be &quot;hunky-dory&quot;, I believe that ,unfortunately, anti-semitism is still very much with us - particularly in the face of all the economic unrest.

Sincerely,

Ellen Samuel</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Dear Rabbi George,</p>
<p>Thank you for your thoughtful article on anti-semitism (it pains me to dignify the word with capital letters, so I try not to.)</p>
<p>I feel that Jewish people in America have become too complacent and far too comfortable. It makes me think of the stories my Mother-in-Law would tell me (she and her family escaped Nazi Germany). She would tell how people would say to her father, who by the way, fought in the German Cavalry in WW1, &#8220;Erich, why are you taking Elsa and the children so far away, we&#8217;re Germans and this will all be over by the spring.&#8221; (We all know how that idea turned out.)</p>
<p>I think the acceptance, that we, as Jews in America, have experienced have led us to be less than cautious. I know I sound paranoid but I grew up in an era where there was still overt anti-semitism, and though on the surface things seem to be &#8220;hunky-dory&#8221;, I believe that ,unfortunately, anti-semitism is still very much with us &#8211; particularly in the face of all the economic unrest.</p>
<p>Sincerely,</p>
<p>Ellen Samuel</p>
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		<title>Comment on Reflection on the Jewish-American Experience &amp; Anti-Semitism by Cynthia Nestle</title>
		<link>http://www.shomreitorah.org/2012/01/09/reflection-on-the-jewish-american-experience-anti-semitism-2/#comment-1262</link>
		<dc:creator>Cynthia Nestle</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 18 Jan 2012 21:32:35 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Long before I had any understanding of what &quot;Jewish &quot; was or had ever given it a thought,(about age 9,)I remember preparing for a trip to visit my best friend who had moved out of town.  The night before leaving my mother told me that it would be best if I did not mention that my maternal  grandmother was Jewish while on my visit, as my friend&#039;s family belonged to an exclusive lake club and my mother did not not want there to be any &quot;problem.&quot;  (It seemed rather like telling a child not to put beans up her nose - most children would never have even thought of such a thing till it was mentioned.)  What is interesting is that I still remember this incident very clearly, and that my mother, who was raised Methodist, clearly understood about antisemitism.
. I was raised in a very educated, liberal family - and yet, going through my mother&#039;s things after her death (in the 70s)  I found an old tablecloth that I remembered was frequently on our table when I was young.  The border was covered with pictures of  Black people as they were still stereotyped in the 40s - &quot;Mammys&quot;, small children with multiple braids eating watermelon - and I was shocked to realize that such a thing had actually been in use in our home.  
So in one generation we have indeed come a long ways.  That these two &quot;messages&quot; came from people who were basically kind, sensitive  and concerned with justice says more about the times than the individuals involved.  Personally, my experiences today almost never include what I would label antisemitism  - my biggest annoyance comes when  organizations schedule meetings on major Jewish holidays - but that feels more like ignorance than anything else. 
 But all our laws which prohibit discrimination, in the work place, in public  places, in business dealings cant really prohibit hate - only its outward manifestation.   So the subject is still important, and it is important for us to be sure that our own attitudes towards other minorities or  faiths  reflect our awareness of what it feels like to be the stranger.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Long before I had any understanding of what &#8220;Jewish &#8221; was or had ever given it a thought,(about age 9,)I remember preparing for a trip to visit my best friend who had moved out of town.  The night before leaving my mother told me that it would be best if I did not mention that my maternal  grandmother was Jewish while on my visit, as my friend&#8217;s family belonged to an exclusive lake club and my mother did not not want there to be any &#8220;problem.&#8221;  (It seemed rather like telling a child not to put beans up her nose &#8211; most children would never have even thought of such a thing till it was mentioned.)  What is interesting is that I still remember this incident very clearly, and that my mother, who was raised Methodist, clearly understood about antisemitism.<br />
. I was raised in a very educated, liberal family &#8211; and yet, going through my mother&#8217;s things after her death (in the 70s)  I found an old tablecloth that I remembered was frequently on our table when I was young.  The border was covered with pictures of  Black people as they were still stereotyped in the 40s &#8211; &#8220;Mammys&#8221;, small children with multiple braids eating watermelon &#8211; and I was shocked to realize that such a thing had actually been in use in our home.<br />
So in one generation we have indeed come a long ways.  That these two &#8220;messages&#8221; came from people who were basically kind, sensitive  and concerned with justice says more about the times than the individuals involved.  Personally, my experiences today almost never include what I would label antisemitism  &#8211; my biggest annoyance comes when  organizations schedule meetings on major Jewish holidays &#8211; but that feels more like ignorance than anything else.<br />
 But all our laws which prohibit discrimination, in the work place, in public  places, in business dealings cant really prohibit hate &#8211; only its outward manifestation.   So the subject is still important, and it is important for us to be sure that our own attitudes towards other minorities or  faiths  reflect our awareness of what it feels like to be the stranger.</p>
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		<title>Comment on Our Kashrut Policy and Why it Matters by Sherry Knazan</title>
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		<dc:creator>Sherry Knazan</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 17 Jan 2012 17:40:13 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Some thoughts on kashrut

I grew up in a home where there were no Jewish connections except for celebrating Hanukah. We didn’t light Shabbat candles nor participate in a Pesach seder.  My parents did not join a synagogue until I was in the 7th grade.  Even then, our family practice did not change.  While we did not mix milk with meat (some vestige of my mother’s own upbringing stayed with her), we ate everything else.

It was while dating my first husband, who grew up in a Modern Orthodox household and whose father was a rabbi, that I first experienced kashrut.  It was only with mild curiosity that I noticed what we ate or did not eat when we were at his house.  However, when we got married and stayed in the same community, we decided it was important for his parents to be able to eat in our home, so we started keeping kosher.  

It made sense to me from the beginning and I took to it like a duck to water.  I proudly told everyone we kept kosher and defended the decision against my parents’ comments.  I kept the 4 sets of dishes and 4 sets of silverware separate from each other (everyday meat, everyday milk, Passover meat, Passover milk).  I knew that anyone could eat in our home, and they did.

After my divorce from my first husband, my mother asked me if I was going to continue keeping kosher.  “After all”, she said, “it doesn’t matter anymore.  Who will care?”  My oldest children were 9 and 6 at the time.  I told my mom that this is what they knew and that it was important to me to continue the way we had been living.

Fortunately, my second husband agreed that kashrut was important, although he did not previously keep kosher.  We continue to this day to separate milk and meat, abstain from anything that is not kosher and carefully read labels.  It doesn’t matter to me that we are in the minority among the Jews here in Sonoma County as it is something I passionately believe in.  

I’d be glad to teach anyone about kashrut!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Some thoughts on kashrut</p>
<p>I grew up in a home where there were no Jewish connections except for celebrating Hanukah. We didn’t light Shabbat candles nor participate in a Pesach seder.  My parents did not join a synagogue until I was in the 7th grade.  Even then, our family practice did not change.  While we did not mix milk with meat (some vestige of my mother’s own upbringing stayed with her), we ate everything else.</p>
<p>It was while dating my first husband, who grew up in a Modern Orthodox household and whose father was a rabbi, that I first experienced kashrut.  It was only with mild curiosity that I noticed what we ate or did not eat when we were at his house.  However, when we got married and stayed in the same community, we decided it was important for his parents to be able to eat in our home, so we started keeping kosher.  </p>
<p>It made sense to me from the beginning and I took to it like a duck to water.  I proudly told everyone we kept kosher and defended the decision against my parents’ comments.  I kept the 4 sets of dishes and 4 sets of silverware separate from each other (everyday meat, everyday milk, Passover meat, Passover milk).  I knew that anyone could eat in our home, and they did.</p>
<p>After my divorce from my first husband, my mother asked me if I was going to continue keeping kosher.  “After all”, she said, “it doesn’t matter anymore.  Who will care?”  My oldest children were 9 and 6 at the time.  I told my mom that this is what they knew and that it was important to me to continue the way we had been living.</p>
<p>Fortunately, my second husband agreed that kashrut was important, although he did not previously keep kosher.  We continue to this day to separate milk and meat, abstain from anything that is not kosher and carefully read labels.  It doesn’t matter to me that we are in the minority among the Jews here in Sonoma County as it is something I passionately believe in.  </p>
<p>I’d be glad to teach anyone about kashrut!</p>
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